This habit is one of the most difficult ones to tackle for we are often unaware or blinded by our self-centeredness in prioritizing our needs over the listener. I definitely struggle with this when doing one-on-ones with students for I unintentionally plan out our conversation before I even listen to what the student needs. This leads to a collective monologue where I may guide our conversation to where I want it to go and not necessarily where the student needs guidance.
I am able to accept the fact that I frequently practice this bad habit and am willing to change and work on eliminating probing and advising discussions that should be more effective. This week I have been making sure that the student understands our discussions are meaningful to the both of us and that they are appreciated and heard. Also within my sphere of influence, my sister and I had a brief discussion about empathetic listening and how there are ways to tell if people are truly listening to your needs. We mentioned how sometimes the speaker may feel rushed by the listener to switch so that the listener can talk. Constant "uh-huh" or "yeah" or "mhmm" and impatient movements can make you feel uncomfortable or not want to finish your statement. We also mentioned that there needs to be more acknowledgement of what the previous person said and not move on to another subject / topic or something irrelevant. We need to work on reflecting other people's needs so that they know we are seeking their understanding.
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AuthorRobert Marley Lerma is an online graduate student through San Diego State University. Weebly is being used to post blog posts for EDL 610 (Visionary Leadership). Archives
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